I always wanted to be…

If there is one statement I hear a lot from people it is “I always wanted to be a …….” What follows the description is the word “but,” which we all know is the intro to the reasons why they have not pursued their dream job. At some point in our life we have uttered those same words to a friend or partner. We merrily describe what interests us about our dream job or how it would change our life but then what I like to call “unverified reality,”  steps in to burst the bubble.

Unverified reality is when we create this world for others to hear about that supports our position without ever verifying facts. This false reality is designed to mask fears, lack of research and unwillingness to act. I’m not sure that we are fooling anyone because there are plenty of examples of people beating the odds to reach their goals.The truth is if we really wanted to be something, we could. If only we had spent less time talking about it and more time pursuing it.

Everything that needs to be done to become who you wish to be must be self-generated. Stop being your own worst enemy. That sounds harsh, doesn’t it? However, that is where all of us have stood, in the way of ourselves. Self esteem plays a huge role in all of this and therefore it is important to get support. There is no magical pill or expert opinion that can fast track your career. If you are expecting an easy way to your dream job, think again. This ain’t Hollywood’s version of what it takes to rise to the top.

Sometimes our dream job isn’t even possible. I may think that I will be the next winner of The Voice which will then parlay into a multimillion dollar music career but maybe my best is not good enough.  I might have been on the way to becoming an NHL star but an injury occurred and now I’m unable to reach that goal. What I want to be and what I can be may be very different. Barriers exist, one dream ends and an alternative begins. I would have to assess if or how I can work in that industry and be around the sights, sounds and smells I love but in a different way.

If you always wanted to be a…..,then here are some firm sounding tips:

* Do your research. Find out if it is possible to get employment in that field.

* If the research pans out and you need to go back to school then find a way. Stop talking and start educating yourself. Sure, it may take a while but in the end you are doing what you love.

* Stop caring about what others think. If they can’t support you then find a true friend that will or business mentor.

* Get help for the emotional baggage that keeps good people like yourself in a perpetual state of giving up before you really begin. If you want to spend more time rehashing your experiences as a student in high school, self identify with labels for why you are the way you are or stay on the loop of childhood, marriage or employment failures it is going to be a long haul. You are worth more than that so when you are ready we will welcome you to the now!

* Know that success is created one logical step at a time so stop trying to take giant leaps or skirt under the fence.

* You have likely over 80 years to grow as a person, learn from the best and embrace your talents so please stop saying you don’t have time.

By the way, I give myself this same advice all the time.

 

 

2 Responses to I always wanted to be…

  1. Interesting post.

    I agree with all your points. To add to the question “I always wanted to be..”, this may not always be a career goal. It could be just a personal dream. Like getting your private pilots license so you can fly a small plane, or learning an instrument (musician), writing a book (author). Some of those activities can, however, turn into future career opportunities that perhaps were unforeseen previously.

    As someone who has successfully made a change into a career that I love, the rebuttal to the “but” is simply that anything worth while takes “hard work and sacrifice”. If you want something bad enough you will find a way. The question then becomes “how bad do you want it..”. At the end of the day, I think most folks talk the talk, but are unwilling to walk the walk.

    The silver lining to this is that for those of us who are hungry, and yearn for more, the opportunities avail themselves as the quitters (i.e. competition) drop like flies from the labor pool.

    One good reason to get off ones tush and start pursuing ones dream.

    Merry Christmas.

  2. Thanks for your input. Agreed.

    You are right, it does take hard work and sacrifice which is something I hope our next generation understands despite social promotion.

    Merry Christmas to you too!

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