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Reflections on life

All Tangled Up

All Tangled Up

Couldn’t help but share this picture of my cousin’s dog caught in his favourite carpet. Yes, there will be days like this but thankfully someone will come to help when we get all tangled up.


Celebrating the Life of Mary Tyler Moore

Celebrating the Life of Mary Tyler Moore

Mary Tyler Moore lived 80 years but how do we sum up the life of Ms. Moore without really knowing her? I guess it can only be done by honoring our own experience, sharing research and recognizing the consciousness of her presence.

Some people, celebrity or not, become an influencer. They don’t necessarily set out to be influential but it happens as a result of doing what they do best. Mary Tyler Moore was one of those people.

Her career began through an interest in dance and acting. Starting at 17 years old with appearances in commercials  she made her way up to landing roles in a list of TV series. She is best remembered for The Dick Van Dyke Show and The Mary Tyler Moore Show.

For me, her influence was best felt through The Mary Tyler Moore Show. My mother used to watch it – I think everyone in our family did – but I really took to her character. She embodied what every girl and woman was striving for at the time. Her role inspired me to dream about all sorts of things like renting my own apartment one day, living by myself, having a good job and a strong voice when needed.

I remember an early episode where Mary stood up for herself to Lou and I thought, Wow, she’s got guts! Of course, it was played with comedy added but still a woman saying something so direct to a male boss? Wow! Even at my young age I knew enough to be impressed by Mary’s drive, compassion, friendships and barrier breaking position.

As an actress her comedy timing was perfect, facial expressions said it all, and she managed to strike a balance between the character’s small town innocence and her larger responsibilities. Of course, this was only a character she played but it meant something.

In real life Mary actively participated in raising awareness about diabetes and animal rights. She too had her struggles and overcame what she could but this made her a good embassador for causes.

If you want to see how much she positively impacted and inspired the life of someone you would have seen it when Mary made a surprise appearance on the Oprah Show. Oprah was a HUGE fan of Mary Tyler Moore and when her staff arranged for a surprise walk on to the stage Oprah broke into the ugly cry. I recall my own tears welling up as I knew Oprah was having a moment that many of us dream of having, the chance to meet the person who changed our world.

I have all the DVD’s of The Mary Tyler Moore Show and I cherish them. From the iconic hat tossing opening, to the music that is so familiar. Each hilarious and touching moment of episode after episode I, like many of you, were invited into Mary’s world. Surrounded by an equally talented cast Mary Tyler Moore turned the world on with her smile. We are fortunate that she has the capacity to still do that as she is immortalized on screen.

This actress and inspiring woman leaves us a little better. What she chose to do with her life and craft made a difference and isn’t that worth celebrating.

May her family, friends and colleagues find comfort in so many wonderful memories she left behind.


Rescue Pets – Alternatives to Pet Stores and Breeders

Rescue Pets – Alternatives to Pet Stores and Breeders

When there are so many pets waiting for homes why are we still going to pet stores and breeders?

My husband and I were in our local pet store picking up bird food for our budgies. Often we walk over to the glass enclosure – that sits about waist-high – filled with budgies of all colours. It looked like they had just got a few more in because it was Christmas. As the store clerks tried to capture a budgie for a woman, who wanted to buy one for her daughter, I couldn’t help but wonder why is she at a pet store?

We adopted our little feathered friends last year from a local shelter. I had seen one of them on a Pet of the Week site and instantly took a liking to him. When I phoned the shelter they assured me he was still there along with many others. When we got to the shelter we saw that he was in a cage with one other budgie and we didn’t have the heart to leave one behind so now they both have a home.

If you look on Craigslist or other similar sites you will find an abundance of birds, dogs, cats, and reptiles waiting to be rehomed. Many people either can’t or won’t take care of their pet and are trying to find them a new home. It is a sad fact that many of these animals will end up in a shelter or worse dumped off somewhere like one of our budgie was. Not all animals survive the stress or lack of care that happens when they become a burden to their owners.

Adoption is a better option. Even pet stores have tried to be more ethical in their approach to pet sales by promoting adoption and supporting animal welfare charities.  Breeders are interested in profiting as a business so lets not bother to look for their support.

It is so important to consider the suitability of a pet to your home, children and lifestyle – whether you are adopting or buying. How stable is your living situation and financial situation? What’s your long-term plans? Many birds for instance can live longer than their owners and so planning for that pet is important.

Please consider adoption more seriously the next time you or someone in your family wants a pet. Move beyond “fad” or “cute” or “status” and instead realistically become part of the solution to animal overpopulation, homelessness and cruelty. Check your local area for rescue associations.

BC SPCA Alternatives to buying pets online or in pet stores





Patience: A Christmas Shopping Virtue

Patience: A Christmas Shopping Virtue

The Christmas season is upon us and with that comes a whole lot of shopping for some folks. In my mind there are three types of shoppers.

  1. Ms. or Mr. Year-Round Shopper who by the time December comes is finished gift buying.
  2. Online Select and Save Savvy Shopper who proudly receives everything to their door or parcel pickup station.
  3. Store Hopping Christmas Shopper who navigates the malls to check off various wish lists.

No matter which shopping style we choose it might be helpful to remind ourselves to exercise patience.

There is no doubt that we will encounter full parking lots and distracted shoppers walking straight into our path. We can all expect that line ups will be longer and what we wanted to purchase may not be in stock.

There will be seasonal staff, who were likely hired and trained rather quickly, which means they might not be able to assist as well as seasoned store employees. Consider the long hours people work and the pressure people feel, financially and emotionally, when they try to meet the needs of family.

How about if we support each other by choosing a different way to respond to Christmas shopping?

  • Manage our time in a way that allows for all the challenges that might complicate our day
  • Flex our patience muscle
  • Take deep breaths and resist the urge to take our frustrations out on someone else
  • Put a smile on your face so those happy endorphins are triggered in the brain
  • Remember the importance of civility whether dealing with a person by phone or in person

Let’s change the frantic energy that often takes over Christmas and choose to move with intention and peace.

Blue Frog Studios – Music Venue Heaven

We have lived near White Rock, BC for many years but it wasn’t until last year that we checked out BLUE FROG STUDIOS. This venue has live music events in a setting that is so intimate it truly makes it a special night out.

My husband and I, plus two dear friends, went to see LED ZEPAGAIN a few months back at the studio and it was an amazing show!

I’m a big HEART fan so I would have liked to check out BARRACUDA, another tribute band that is playing June 10th, but I have other plans for that evening. Hopefully they will be back again soon.

If you don’t want to travel to Vancouver to see shows then this might be a nice option for you. The talent spans all music genres and the studio’s sound is excellent! There’s great restaurants throughout White Rock if you want dinner before the show or maybe go down to the beach afterwards for an evening walk.

Just thought I would share a little piece of community-based music venue heaven.



Nicholas Nixon- The Brown Sisters Portraits

I could write about how Nicholas Nixon’s The Brown Sisters portraits moved me. It would be even appropriate to talk about sisterhood and the richness of life etched out on these women’s faces. I could share that through these photos I might have yearned for the closeness I see between them and recognized the signs of aging – none of that matters. What matters is what you see and feel. Where does it take you?

Listen to the interview and afterwards I suggest turning down the sound, simply let the pictures flow. Fraenkel Gallery Video 1:

Nicholas Nixon discusses The Brown Sisters

Fraenkel Gallery


The Museum of Modern Art Video 2:

Hearts Extend To Fort McMurray

The displacement of thousands of people due to wildfires in Fort McMurray is a reminder of how things can change so quickly. One minute we are busy at work, playing in our garden, dining at a favourite restaurant or cuddled up in our cozy bed and the next moment we are escaping from a threat with only the clothes on our backs.

It is truly heartbreaking to think about the toll this has taken on those people. My mind also wanders to the forests and animals that will not be spared. Wildfires happen every year but none as devastating as this.

The fiery embers rain down and through the smoke we witness emergency response teams doing their jobs, without knowledge of their own families safety, without sleep and guaranteed protection. How this fire began is yet to be confirmed but whether it was caused by human or lightening it remains a terrible situation.

Rebuilding Fort McMurray will be years in the making and it is likely that thousands will not be returning to life as they once knew it. That reality can take an emotional toll on individuals and families. Support will be needed for some time to come.

I heard a radio commentator talking about the stupid and cruel remarks made by pundits and others on the internet about this crisis. Some taking the opportunity to blame climate change and others saying Fort McMurray deserves this as pay back for being involved in the oil business. He was incensed and so was I. SHAMEFUL!

If there is one thing you can count on it’s people like that slithering out from dark holes to spew venom before retreating back inside.

There is also no value in the could’ve, should’ve blame that often accompanies these things. Energy must be directed toward pursuits of rebuilding, with communities and individuals rising to the challenge.

To all those former residents of Fort McMurray it is my hope that you know across this country we are keeping you in our thoughts. (At least those of us that have an ounce of compassion, sense and civility left in us)  We hope that donations and goodwill help you rebuild a new life that eventually lessens the pain of today.   Our hearts go out to you.

Wildfire Information Alberta and British Columbia

Wildfire Alberta

Wildfire History BC