Tag Archives: Self Esteem

Home Improvement

Over the years the one thing I have enjoyed is home improvement and decorating. I love the satisfaction that goes along with taking an idea and turning it into reality. Most the time it is born out of a leisurely hour pouring over a decorating magazine or walking through a show home with my eyes dancing around everywhere. My photographic memory kicks in, must have list starts typing away in my head, file in my brain for upcoming projects is opened, and there you have it…something is about to moved, demolished, primped or bought.

My husband knows the look in my eyes and then the usual statement that follows “I have an idea”. This is where he says, “Oh, No.” He envisions his time being taken up to accommodate my idea and that causes him stress. Lots of times though it does not involve him at all. He just comes home to a newly designed room, painted walls, landscape changes, or hammer and nails being put away.

One of my favourite things to do is to organize the garage and tool area. I am particular that my tools and machinery have a place so that I can access it quickly when inspiration hits. Paint cans and accessories have their shelf, drills and drill bits stored, peg board with inside and outside tools displayed and larger garden equipment placed and hung accordingly.

This is how I remember my fathers garage too, orderly and it certainly was the space in which something to enhance our home had its beginnings. Of course in those days I never saw my mother or any other mothers stepping into that domain, but times have changed. Today, you see women all the time in the local home improvement stores, tools have even been modified and marketed differently and informative workshops are offered monthly for the DIY divas. Women, just like myself, have seen an increase in our self esteem as we venture onto the next project, learn, grow, face trial and error and eventually reap the benefits of our idea coming into reality.

If you have something you want done around your home be adventurous. I encourage you to get beyond waiting for someone else to do it and unleash your inner builder, decorator or landscaper! Thinking about a career change…how about the trades? Or, like me it can all be something that inspires you and stays a past time, either way satisfaction is guaranteed.

By the way, I did this post in between cooking a dinner which is normally not my idea of fun. This followed a day I spent in home cleaning and decorating mode, lighting improvement discussions and more,  today I was a”jack (or Jill) of all trades.”

Afghan Girls Attacked

Did you see the story?

I, like many around the world, was horrified and saddened to see the Afghan girls and their teachers who had been attacked on their way to school by men with bottles of acid. The courage these girls and many others face every day to step outside their homes in search of a better future is inspirational. We, in our part of the world, could not begin to know that bravery as it takes so little for us to send our children or ourselves to school.

We went off to school at the tender age of five,  with the only scary prospect being the exploration of something new and separation from our parents. Women fought for our right to be educated beyond the expectations of only learning proper “quilting techniques” and “how to be a lady”. I for one am truly thankful, but even those women after many years of lobbying did not endure what these girls and women do.

Some girls in Afghanistan are quite a bit older, far past the age of five and are just starting their basics of education. Some were (and many still are) not able to even step foot outside their door as going beyond the confines of their home was not permitted. Many were expected to work at home, take care of the sick or marry early, never to receive an education. Currently in Afghanistan, “only 35 percent of the children enrolled in schools are girls, according to CARE, an international humanitarian agency.” This may not seem very good but it is better than it was.

For the few that do attend school, I have read interviews where they speak about their excitement of meeting other girls outside of their own family members and at the prospect of learning to read, write and learn as much as they can. Some even take an accelerated learning class. In part I would think, to get to the level they should have been at their age, but I suspect it may be practical to get in as much learning just in case the opportunity is taken away again. Can you even imagine how this improves their self esteem!

My heart goes out to those girls and all the women of the world who struggle to do that which we take for granted. I feel helpless not knowing what to do for all of them. I do know that they are in my heart and that I admire every family who believed it was in their best interest to educate both their sons and daughters. I hold hope for each of those girls and women, that they will rise above gender discrimination and misogyny to embrace their right to life and improve the rights of future generations. I wish for them happiness in whatever form that takes, as it will be their decision and theirs alone. I want them to know… “I’m thinking of you today.”

Thar She Blogs!

I have finally set sail on my voyage into the blogging world. First, I had to figure out what design I wanted for my ship, I scoured over countless inspirational designs and finally settled on one. I required a builder to take my ideas and make them a reality. I had to name the ship as she couldn’t set sail without a name, and of course lessons were necessary because I would be at the helm. I realized early on I was about to move through completely uncharted territory.

There was self taught moments, followed by utter confusion and fear of launching. There was plenty of captains and sailors around me, far more seasoned than I, who gave their advice but ultimately I knew this ship was my baby. It would be overly dramatic to say that giving birth to her was intense, but at times I wasn’t sure if I was ever going to set sail.

Like any new thing in life, you have to build up your confidence to pursue it. Not having a techno savvy background to pull from, I really think I made it a lot harder than it needed to be. But isn’t that what we do? When something is out of our comfort zone, the challenge seems immense. On days when your self esteem is high you set up to work towards your goal and seem to know just what questions to ask from those who have the expertise you lack. On the days when esteem is low, you flounder around questioning whether it was a good idea to begin with.

Advice: Take a moment away from the challenge before you, as a wise woman once told me “Jennifer, step away from the computer…make yourself a cup of tea.” In so doing I and you gain perspective and when you return, there is more energy to devote to your project. Be open to the learning, don’t feel you need to know it all, mistakes are OK and perseverance is the key to your success.

Welcome, hope you enjoy this cruise along with me, it should be a very interesting voyage!