Comments on: Curiosity Killed the Cat

By: Nancy Wilson

Nancy Wilson — Wed, 30 Sep 2009 22:22:03 +0000

Sorry for some of my spelling…near the end it should read..that said ,this cover up goes on and on.I know he has abused many other young children.

By: Nancy Wilson

Nancy Wilson — Wed, 30 Sep 2009 22:18:43 +0000

Thank you for your kind,strong words.This has already given me the gift of peace.I really appreciate having the forum to express this situation.I have held my tongue for many years…in this almost “small town” of N.Vancouver I met mutual friends of his & his family one of whom abused me.I even was assigned to care for his father (another lost soul) when he was dying.I was lucky enough to be able to confide in a close coworker that was also my friend and she took over his care.The most frustrating thing was to hear all the other nurses say how generous and good Jack was to his dying father ( $$$ possibly had something to do with it ..I don’t know) All the while knowing what an evil man he was/is.
My abuser did apologize to me in later life,telling me of their own abuse and confirming they had abused others in a babysitting situation.This took courage for this person and my heart ached for them and their pain yet also knew that at the time they knew it was wrong.The real criminal was Jack.He IS more then just a collector and net viewer.(which is BAD enough) I’m sorry for the pain his family has had,it is easy to judge until you have it thrust upon you.That they said this cover up goes on and on.I know he has most likely abused many of YOUNG children in very horrid ways.
Thank you from the bottom of my heart for your care,support and kind inspiring words.I write this as tears pur from my eyes with sadness and yet relief.Maybe tonight I can lay some of this to rest and sleep.
I’m so glad for people that care for others as do you and your readers,once again thankyou.

By: Jennifer

Jennifer — Wed, 30 Sep 2009 19:14:28 +0000

Nancy, I have responded via email to your comment but wanted to share more with the readers of this blog. You have provided us all with an insight into this story and bravely shared in a way that has me needing to thank you.

I do not take what you have done lightly, you have moved many beyond the words. What is striking is your message about how far the net of abuse can be cast. So many victims primary and secondary, so many secrets needing to be kept.

Your reluctance to towards charges or court is perfectly understandable. I worked for many years with victims of assault, sexual assault and child sexual assault. The process is hard, subjecting individuals to many uncomfortable moments. There have been many changes over the years to support the victims but still the fear is a real one.

More often than not, Nancy, I was more likely to see that a person with such a background like Jack Crone or indeed many abusers did not see proper justice regardless of the hard working efforts of victims and police. That is not to say that it isn’t worth it but simply, it is a long road that one needs to be mentally and physically prepared for. It wasn’t your time to place yourself in that role. And that is OK.

There are many others to take the blame for allowing abusers, like you described, to continue. Their silence was not based on anything I can support.

Again, I commend you for coming forward. Your gift is immense to us all in the telling of your story. As mentioned in my email, I have taken many breaths to find the right words to express how deeply I feel about the time you took to share this and how you will change lives through your words.

That is YOUR gift to us all; a moment to reflect further, to understand what the soul remembers long before/after these people stand in front of our courts, and to not accept the silence by those that were more in a position to make a difference.

Nancy, I am so sorry for what happened and that nobody could protect you. I hope that you will move towards forgiveness of self, as so many things were taken from you but how to proceed was your choice to make. Many of us can empathize with your decision, you were already fighting a battle and you won by being here today – a voice stronger than ever and we thank you deeply.

By: Nancy Wilson

Nancy Wilson — Wed, 30 Sep 2009 07:28:38 +0000

Your questions were on the mark.I am an adult abused by one of his children years back.The person was my next door neighbour and our mothers were best friends.The child for many years has openly said this happened as a result of the awful abuse from their father.The crazy,scary mixed up emotions and actions were then played out on myself and other children under this persons care.
Jacks ex wives and family knew about his “likes” hence the divorces.My own situation was reported to the ministry of H.H but I couldn’t emotionally handle a trial and opted to not press charges….something I regret with all my soul.I did try to tell the mother of the victim/slash abuser to me but she made it out that I was menatally ill and unstable.
My mom lost all of her friends as she could not face the family and I begged her to let it be ( I wasn’t yet even a teen)My parents then understood why all of a sudden I stopped being able to sleep through the night.When this person babysat me they called it “learning” I guess what their father was doing to them.I blocked much out but do remember stripping down naked,being forced to eat this persons toe nails & other awful abusive actions.I was told I would have to jump off Lions Gate bridge if I tols and at the age of 6-7 I believed I would die.My sitter was not much older then I but old enough for me to be very frightened.Close enough to take me to school,sometimes from school and babysit on weekends.My saving grace was moving away.
Jack Crone bought off his children he abused with lavish gifts of money and fine cars.Many people in the community of Norgate know this.I’m so sorry to those that suffered at his and his families hands that I did not come forth with a more stronger and lasting fight for justice.I will never forgive myself.

By: Jennifer

Jennifer — Wed, 16 Sep 2009 04:34:20 +0000

Thank you so much for the compliment, congrats and the comment. Welcome to my blog. As hard as these stories are to hear it becomes part of my learning. The misfortunes in our society has most often been the impetus for others to become vocal. A cause is born.