Comments on: Taking care of Self

By: Jennifer

Jennifer — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 18:28:33 +0000

Re: article…Can we have it all, I still say “Yes.” What that definition is will be quite different for each person.

The problem I find is the lack of delegation, the willingness to let go and have someone else handle it.

More often than not, the kids have more on their plate than they need in a week which then transfers to mothers time. We own more stuff that requires constant upkeep, saying “no” on the job can be wrongly interpreted and many women say their partners add more work to their day as soon as they come through the door.

We can have it all but every once in awhile it is good to re-examine what “all” is. Maybe it would be better in smaller doses

I love that counselors advice…very good! “Of what value is your “Yes”, if you never say “No?” LOVE IT! Thanks for passing that along.

By: Jennifer

Jennifer — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 18:05:50 +0000

Thank you Candice for sharing that story and the person who provided you with words of wisdom so early on in life. It is a fine line we all travel when we aim to please but sacrifice a piece of self. Waking up to my own failings to take my own advice and now gathering the advice of others like yourself is a good thing!

By: Pat (aka Trish)

Pat (aka Trish) — Sun, 05 Jul 2009 15:16:44 +0000

This past June 29, the Daily Express, (a popular U.K. National newspaper, published an article on the subject of “Can Women really have it all?”

The hyperlink will not display here, so I will try and publish it via my blog.

I echo the opinions and advice of “Candice” as I well recall the advice and words of a very wise Adlerian Counselor, who I once consulted, after becoming exhausted, trying to be everything to everybody.
Her words were… “Of what value is your “YES”, if you never say NO ?”

By: candice

candice — Sat, 04 Jul 2009 01:48:40 +0000

Hey there,
There was a woman who came into my elementary school when I was 10 and I will never forget what she had to say. She came in to speak only to the girls about being assertive and strong. She told us that saying “no” is not rude, and being assertive is not being a bitch. I have never forgotten these words growing up, and it has taught me to say no to things that I other wise would have felt obligated to say yes to. It seems very simple, but it’s something (especially for woman) that we find hard to get out.
Keep trying, soon the word “no” becomes much less dirty, and you will find yourself doing only the things you enjoy with much less obligation to the rest.
Have a nice day