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My Last Blog Post

My Last Blog Post

It is a sunny but cold Sunday. The snow is still clinging to the roofs and blanketing the ground. Little buds that were emerging have been reminded it’s not spring yet but their time will come. It seemed like the perfect day to say goodbye to my website.

If I was to listen to what I preach to others then I would hear, “It’s not all about where you’ve been, it’s about where you want to go.” I could continue an archeological dig that would reveal what has gone into building my business and this blog but what’s the point? I would simply be trying to talk myself into staying the course but really it’s time to let new opportunities emerge.

My carefully crafted professional identity has switched between comforting and smothering over time. All of us can rationalize and say, “This is as who I am and what I do, so why change? It’s only going to complicate things.” The complication has existed anyway by virtue of the many hours I’ve spent feeling like there is something new on the horizon and it’s time to spread my wings.

Inside me is a yearning to break free. In the moments when I allow myself to venture beyond my safe, conventional thinking I see another woman in the picture. This woman looks like me but healthier. She is still writing but on a fresh page with creative juices flowing. She is learning new things and is immersed in fun activities. Her work with women in transition and support for humanity, family and friends remains.

As for my Esteem Rising ®  blog, over the course of the last couple of weeks I’ve tried to save as many of my blog posts as possible – that weren’t already on file. I was surprised to learn that I had written almost 800 blog posts! (Not all grammatically correct but posted) My more passionate reflections, rants, interviews with interesting people and commentary about Human Trafficking were the first to find security on a memory stick.

What I noticed over time was a distinct difference in frequency and enthusiasm with my writing.  My blog was not entirely Sparking Joy.  If I apply the Marie Kondo philosophy to my website (and work) I need to tidy things up. I will begin to assess what is valuable. What doesn’t spark joy will be acknowledged for its service and thankfully let go.

I have people to thank, including you readers for helping this website and blog to develop. Some very special people who come to mind are:

Jill, who told me to find my voice and not be afraid to write with authenticity.

Lise, Pat, Mar and Dean who read my blog from the beginning and along with so many others contributed their personal opinion on site and via email.

Ray, my “Web Guy”, who patiently and professionally answered so many odd tech questions from me while changing and maintaining jenniferchandler.com.

So, I would like to think that after tidying up you may just see Esteem Rising ® with a fresh new look and a renewed sense of purpose!

Continued success is wholeheartedly wished for you all!


Blog Fatigue

I wish I could say that I feel like writing today but I don’t. There comes a time in every bloggers journey in which they simply don’t have the energy to blog. I’m at that point. I have multiple post ideas running through my head by they will have to wait. Blog fatigue happens.

The brain power it takes to write isn’t always there. Sometimes bloggers take a break to evaluate their reason for blogging and others just simply get too busy to keep up. No matter the reason for distance between posts, I believe when you do write that it has to come from an authentic place. Today I’m authentically saying, I’m not in the mood. However, I appreciate my readers and so I’m sure there will be something in a day or two that will re-ignite my passion for posting a good rant, opinion, advice or life reflection.

A Bloggers Anniversary

It was one year ago when I started blogging.

My initial concern was the exposure to so many people and how to maintain my professional image while dispensing personal opinions. Early on my friend and colleague mentioned about “finding your voice,” as every blogger has their unique style represented in their posts. I’m not sure if I have found “my voice”, I think so…though I can’t quite put my finger on it.

I do know that I have posted less material that would address my professional knowledge as it pertains to careers and concentrated mainly on interests. I admit sometimes I hold back in my posts. In my professional life I’m contemplative, I like to think before I speak. I have a vast amount of information but fall heavily back on my counselling skills to hear the story before providing counsel. My approach is supportive and non-judgmental and I truly assess what is in the best interest of my clients or students.

My blogging and writing is at times all together different!

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Small Wedding with Big Plans

No matter how you cut it even a small wedding takes time to plan.

It has been incredibly hard to find enough hours in the day to work on various projects and then add in oh…..a wedding! Balancing life, work and wedding organization is a challenge, delegating out some key pieces has become necessary. This is something I have always advocated for people to do and it is at that point where I will be taking my own advice. Time is ticking and even my confidence to pull everything together is weakening.  It’s nothing major just that all consuming thought that I am forgetting some crucial detail and staring up at the ceiling at night going over the “to do” list.

Blogging is going to have to slow down right now, so be prepared for smaller posts. If you have topic of interest you think we should talk about let me know. A little dialogue among blog friends would be a healthy retreat. Guest blogger welcomed.

I will of course, when all is said and done, be writing on my wedding experience. Nothing too “girly”, just maybe some information that may be helpful to the 40+ bride and some “Aha!” moments.  So, stay tuned and keep checking back there will be more to come.

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